Children's Shoes

If a 14yr old boy shoes signs of being gay, how do I approach him so he knows I will except him and not b mad?

He has admitted it to several people but in a joking manner?

Public Comments

1. just be there for him try not to force the issue, you could mention gay topics in a nice manner when he is around and maybe he will come out then
2. make him comfortable... let him know you won't be disapointed in him... at 14, he's already known, on average for 4 years.
3. By just being supportive. His views could change next wekk.
4. Show him you love and accept him, when he's ready to tell you, he will.
5. hire some strippers and they will strighten him out.
6. Is he your son or someone you are grooming?
7. He may be going through a stage or actually gay. All you can do is to be there for him if he needs you. Let him come to you because all you can really do at this time is let him know that you love him unconditionally. If you force the issue and he is not ready, you might alienate him. Be patient and loving. I wish you much luck and commend you for unconditional love. BTW, joking is often 'testing the waters' to see how people will react.
8. your acceptance of this is commendable. your son is extremely fortunate to have a mom like you. no advice from me. but you have my respect.
9. I think the first answer said it best. If he's mentioning the subject jokingly, he probably wants to know what other people think, but could just be embarrassed to bring it up in a more serious way. Bringing up related subjects yourself, without asking him directly, would be a sensitive way of letting him know that you are accepting and not judgmental, and might lead to him coming out if that's what he wants. Thank you for caring so much, and trying to handle the situation properly - I'm sure he will thank you himself in future.
10. Tell him you will always love him . Tell him even Scott Petersons parents love him even after he killed his wife and unborn child . A mother will always love there child , right or wrong.
11. don't push him into telling you. If you are supportive he will tell you on his own.
12. Just tell him you know he is a beautiful person and you will accept him for who he is, no matter what. That your love is unconditional. Then tell him he can confide in you with anything and you do mean anything!
13. its shows not shoes its accept not except,...please watch your spellings. well adivice him and he is too young to know what he really wants so for me i will tell him no u r not a gay, wait till u r older enough.
14. tell him you love him and dont care...... does it really make a difference anyway?
15. Bring up the NJ gay rights case that just took place... tell him how you feel, and maybe he'll realize you accept it
16. Talk to him and be his best friend. I think my parents suspected it a long time ago but never really asked me. It would have save me a lot of time and a lot of heartache had they just asked me long ago! Just remember that if he you will need to be with him 100%. Being gay is not easy sometimes. Hell, life is never easy, but this just makes it that much more of a challenge, so he will need you to be there for him.